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The Comparison Struggle

The comparison struggle

Okay, here it goes. I struggle with comparison. It is not something that I am proud of, but I know that I can work on this area of my life. Recently it’s been very apparent when I look at images of “perfect young 20-somethings” plastered all over social media and they all seem to have it all together. The perfect hair, nails, meals, birthday parties, and weddings- it can be overwhelming. Is anyone with me? It’s all so easy to compare ourselves to these people who seem to have these so-called perfect lives.

So, how have I tried to overcome this? I practice gratitude. I take time to look at what I do have. I begin listing things that I am grateful and thankful for. Before I know it, I realize I have more than I imagined. Practicing gratitude is a quality that anyone can achieve. So, be still, pay attention to the sensations of this moment and notice your boanna-comparisonunty of blessings.

Being excited about the benefits of gratitude can be a great thing because it gives us the kick we need to start making changes. Look at these aspects of your life, and start practicing today!

  • Give one compliment daily- tell people what qualities you admire about them. It builds relationships with the people around you and brightens everyone’s day!
  • Keep a gratitude journal- you don’t need a fancy notebook, just you and your positive thoughts.
  • Resist the urge to criticize- vow to not complain, criticize or gossip for 10 days. If you slip, keep going, for 10 days straight.
  • Grow from all situations- when you find yourself in a less than admirable situation, ask yourself “What can I learn from this?”
  • Turn negatives into positives- if you identify something negative (like a cold conference room) switch your mind to turn it into a positive (the room with the comfortable chairs).
  • Remember that you become what you practice most- if you are uptight, reacting to criticism your life will be a reflection of this. If you practice kindness, patience and humility your life will be a reflection of what you practice.